My Favorite Things
Updated: Nov 1, 2020
I find myself recommending certain resources over and over again because I just love them that much! I figured it would be nice to house them all in one place, and include the amazon link so you can order what you need right now and not let it get lost in the mom-brain forgetful fog!
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Favorite parenting books
How To Talk So Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7 by Joanna Faber & Julie King
- This book is such a great practical guide for dealing with super common toddler/ early childhood behaviors. It starts off going through some basics of helping children deal with their feelings, engaging cooperation, alternatives to punishment, and encouraging autonomy (all totally in line with Positive Parenting principles). And then it moves into how to handle specific parenting challenges like: food fights, morning madness, sibling rivalry, shopping, lies, tattling, cleanup, doctor's orders, shy kids, runaways, hitting/ pinching/ poking, sleep, and anger.
Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
- Adele Faber is Joanna Faber's mom, and she also wrote How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk (which is similar to the book above, but not generalized to the 2-7 age group). When writing How To Talk...she said the chapter on sibling rivalry originally was way too long and the realized it really needed to be a book of it's own. I love the honesty in this book and it made me think not only about my own children, but also about the sibling dynamics with my own sisters. It's really a powerful read covering topics like: dealing with your own sibling history, dealing with bad feelings siblings will have towards each other, the perils of comparison, siblings in roles, and what to do when kids fight.
No-Drama Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
- I reference Dr. Siegel and Dr. Bryson often, because I love how they use brain science to show the effectiveness of Positive Parenting on our children. Their first book together is The Whole Brain Child, and I've also read and enjoyed The Yes Brain, and The Power of Showing Up. But my favorite has been No Drama Discipline because it is got me to rethink what discipline even means, and gave practical tips for how to connect with your child in difficult moments instead of punishing. It includes visual cartoons throughout demonstrating it's points, which helped them stick in my head and reference back as needed.
Oh Crap Potty Training: Everything Modern Parents Need to Know to Do It Once and Do It Right by Jamie Glowacki.
The minute I hear a parent mentioning potty training I recommend Oh Crap. As a former teacher and the oldest of 22 grandchildren, I felt really prepared for a lot of parenting milestones, but potty training was not one of them. I had no idea where to start or what to do. Everyone said to wait for cues they were ready but my 2.5 year old seemed COMPLETELY uninterested. After reading this book my type-A personality felt completely prepared for how to approach potty training. I also loved all the FAQs throughout the book. During the actual process of potty training each time I started to feel like "well what do I do now?" I could reference the FAQs and felt like I had a supportive partner in my corner!
Favorite books to read for my own growth
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transform the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown
- If you hang out with me for any significant amount of time, you're going to hear me mention Brene Brown. From the moment I first listened to her talk I was hooked, and could probably be the president of her fan club. All her books are amazing (and I'll link all the one's I've read here) but if I HAD to pick a favorite it would be Daring Greatly. I learned so much about myself - the armor I was putting up to avoid vulnerability, why this was ultimately keeping me from living a joyful life, and what I could do to make important changes. I guarantee I will re-read this book many times!
Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear
- This book gave practical tips for how to start or stop any habit. It also encouraged me to think about the identity I want to create and the importance of habits in this role. I find myself referencing these strategies often.
Favorite parenting tools
- Timers are my most used parenting tool. They can be used for so many different purposes: try to beat the timer cleaning up, here's how my time left until we leave, here's how much time left of computer time. We set our timer at least 4-5 times a day. I like this visual timer, because it helps my kids to "see" how much time is left. And I also like this one because it makes a noise when it goes off, so even if I'm in another room I still hear it and know their time is up.
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